In my hypnotherapy practice over the years I’ve spoken with many Experiencers about their ET abduction and contact experiences, and although each experience is different, they do have similarities. I have found that Experiencers can be separated into two distinct groups – the group of people who can’t wait to tell me about their wonderful ET abductions and the group who want me to help them forget their experiences. These two groups of people represent one of the most puzzling aspects of the ET Experiencer phenomenon: why some abductees enjoy their contact with ETs and actually look forward to future events while others hate every second and desperately want to purge the memories from their mind. Considering that in some aspects we human beings are as different from one another as if we came from different planets, it isn't surprising that our ET experiences are different. But in cases of alien abduction, it’s more than that. Based on the ET contact events reported to me and theories propounded by other therapists and researchers, there seems to be a plausible explanation for this conundrum: that our basic belief systems affect our ET experiences and may even determine whether an abduction event is positive or negative.
This theory boils down abduction experiences into two types, which I refer to as the rollercoaster ride you can’t wait to get back on and the one that made you so sick you’ll never be able to look a corn dog in the face again.
Individuals in the first group tend to use effusive phrases like “I felt unconditional love,” It felt like home.” “They showed me the entire universe – it was really great!” “It was the best sex I’ve ever had!” etc., when describing their ET experiences. They also speak of being singled out, blessed, guided, protected, etc. I suspect that if most of these individuals had their way, the next time they were taken, they would choose not to return. And while I think luck has very little to do with it, for purposes of this discussion, I will call them the Lucky Ones.
Experiencers in the other camp see things quite a bit differently. Words like rape, torture, terrified and helpless tend to pepper the play-by-play description of their ET visits. These are the people who frequently end up in a therapist’s office looking for the means to deal with what has been done to them or a way to forget it. I call these people the Unlucky Ones, even though, again, I don’t think luck has much to do with it.
As a therapist, I’ve spent a lot of time wondering how some Experiencers seem to get rainbows and cotton candy, while others get broken glass and the fuzzy end of the lollipop from their experiences. I wish I had a solid answer to give them when they ask. But since their abductors don't usually offer an explanation, the only place I can look for an answer is the human side of the equation – specifically, the human mind. So whether you are a Lucky One or an Unlucky One, if you are a human, with a mind, I believe your mind is where the answer to the question lies.
Psychologists tell us that our perceptions of the world are colored by the things we learn during our lifetimes - in our mother’s arms, at church, in school, in the back rows of movie theatres, at work, etc. These everyday events shape our basic world view and beliefs. And this world view is the lens through which we see reality. What you see on the street is colored, shaped and conditioned by the lens (beliefs) through which you view it. Rose-colored glasses do, indeed, create a rose-colored world for the viewer. So, what if that applies to ET experiences as well? What if the positiveness or negativeness of an ET experience is determined not by the actions of the ETs, but by the perceptions of the Experiencer? This may not be easy to accept, especially if you happen to be an Unlucky One, but once accepted, it can be liberating and even empowering.
“If a tree falls in the forest and there’s no one there to hear it, will it make a sound?” This old question has been revived by the new scientific religion of our time - quantum physics - and the question it poses is a head-scratcher for even some of our biggest scientific brains. It asks, can something exist without someone there to perceive it? And it expresses a dichotomy between perceived existence and intrinsic existence, by implying that reality is colored, if not wholly created, by our individual perceptions. Taken in the context of ET-human interactions, what it boils down to is this - if my basic belief system supports positive experiences, my ET visits will be positive; if my belief system supports negative experiences, I'll get the fuzzy end of the lollipop every time.
Like attracts like in the realm of the mind. This law is accepted by the many psychologists and counselors who use it every day to help their clients conquer a host of problematic life issues. It seems to apply in the realm of ET-human contact as well. Our positive beliefs cause us to perceive whatever ETs do to us as positive. Likewise, negative or fear-based beliefs cause us to perceive our ET experiences as negative.
Unfortunately, belief systems that have developed throughout a lifetime may not be easily changed, so it may be difficult to transform the fuzzy end of the lollipop into cotton candy. But the good news is that it can be done. By learning to recognize and understand how their own beliefs control them, Experiencers can change their perceptions - and thus, their reality. Can it really be that simple? Simple, yes; easy, not necessarily. But the human mind is very powerful, and the truth is that the only individuals in the universe who can turn us into victims are ourselves. Like everything else in life, good things happen and bad things happen, and the difference is how we accept them and live with them.
Beginning to look at our ET visits from a different point of view can make a huge difference in how they affect us, and can turn us from victims into victors. It has nothing to do with whether we agree with what ETs are doing or not. It’s about us, not them. If you are an Experiencer having problems with the aftermath of an ET contact or abduction event, talk to a supportive friend or a therapist. Get away from negative media and opinions that support your fears. Surround yourself with positive people and activities. Have fun. Volunteer to help someone who has more problems than you. And, most important, realize that whether you are a victim or not is up to you. As long as you take your power, you can get on with life and face past and future abductions and contact events without fear and anger.
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