What do you mean, you can’t wait for the ETs to take you again? Are you nuts?!

           One of the most puzzling aspects of the ET Experiencer phenomenon is the apparent contradiction between individual ET experiences.  Some abductees enjoy the event while others hate every single second.   We human beings are as different from one another, in some respects, as if we actually came from different planets.  Based on that, it really isn't surprising that our ET experiences, like nearly every other experience in our lives, can be so different.

          Anyway, based on my own experiences with ETs, those that my clients have shared with me, and theories propounded by other therapists and researchers,  I decided to take a flying leap at a plausible explanation to this conundrum.  Please be advised that I'm not the first person to come up with similar ideas, so if it's just too ridiculous for you to accept, don't blame it solely on me.  While there are many different types of ET experiences, for the purposes of this article, I’m gonna divide the typical types of experiences into two kinds – the ride you can’t wait to get back on, and the one that made you so sick you’ll never be able to look a corn dog in the face again.

           Yay!!!!!  Individuals in the first group tend to use effusive phrases like “I never felt so much pure love in my life!”  “When they touched my mind I felt all the wisdom of the universe.”  “It was the best sex I’ve ever had!” etc., when describing their ET experiences.  They also speak of being singled out, blessed, taught, guided, gifted, etc.  I suspect that if most of these individuals had their choice, the next time they went out for an ET happy hour, they wouldn’t come back.  And while I think luck has very little to do with it, for purposes of our present discussion, I will refer to them as the Lucky Ones.

           The other camp sees things a bit differently.  Words like rape, torture, abduction, forced against my will, terrified and helpless, tend to pepper the play-by-play description of their ET visits.  Some of these people believe that ETs are demons intent on, at the very least, sucking out their brains, and at the worst, sucking out their souls.  They are the victims.  These are the people who usually end up in my office, looking for a means to deal with what has been done to them, or a way to forget it.  (If I sold mental blocks, I'd be rich.)  I call these people the Unlucky Ones.  Even though, again, I don’t think luck has anything to do with it.

           As a therapist, I’ve spent a lot of time wondering how some Experiencers seem to get rainbows and cotton candy, while others get broken glass and the fuzzy end of the lollipop.  I wish I had a solid answer to give them when they ask.  Since ETs are not known for sharing information, the only place I can look for an answer is the human side of the equation.  As a student of the mind, I tend to go to the subconscious for the explanation of all human behavior.  It is in that vast mental storehouse where the answer is frequently found.  So whether you are a Lucky One or an Unlucky One, you are a human, with a subconscious mind, and that’s where we’re gonna start.

"Two monks were arguing about the temple flag waving in the wind.

One said, "The flag moves."  The other said, "The wind moves."  They

argued back and forth but could not agree.  The Sixth Ancestor said,

"Gentlemen!  It is not the wind that moves; it is not the flag that moves;

it is your mind that moves."  The two monks were struck with awe."

                                                                 

          Psychologists (and Buddhist monks) tell us that our perceptions of the world are colored by the things we learned during our lifetimes - in our mother’s arms, at church, in school, in the back rows of movie theatres, at work, etc.  These everyday events are the things that shape our basic world view.  And this world view is the lens through which we see reality.  It must ever be so and can never be otherwise.  It's the only show in town.  In other words, what you see on the street is colored, shaped and conditioned by the lens (beliefs) that you view it through.  Rose-colored glasses do, indeed, create a rose-colored world.  So, what if that applies to ET experiences as well?  What if the positiveness or negativeness of an ET experience is  determined not by the actions of the ETs, but by the perception of the Experiencer?

If a tree falls in the forest and there’s no one there to hear it, will it make a sound? 

          This old riddle has been revived by the new scientific religion of our time - quantum physics.  The question it poses is a head-scratcher for even some of our biggest brains.  It asks - can something exist without someone there to perceive it?  And it expresses a dichotomy between perceived existence and intrensic existence.  It implies that reality is colored, if not wholly created, by human perception.  What it boils down to is this - if my basic belief system supports positive experiences, my ET visits will be positive.  If my belief system supports negative experiences, I'll get the fuzzy end of the ET lollipop every time.

            I like this theory for a couple of reasons.  It provides a perfect rationalization when I'm tempted to go off my diet.  According to this idea, if I perceive the chocolate bar as Melba Toast, then it really is Melba Toast, and I can gobble it up without guilt.  Easy.  But I also like the theory because it is empowering.  It means that I'm responsible for the consequences of eating the chocolate bar.  I'm not a victim of the chocolate bar, but of my own faulty belief that I can eat it without consequences.  Presto-chango, victimhood is no more!  Free at last, free at last!  Thank God almighty, I'm free at last!  Ergo, whether I turn out to be a Lucky One or Unlucky One is determined by the contents of my own mind.  If I am a victim, it's my own doing. 

            Like attracts like in the realm of the mind.  This is the basis for the law of attraction.  According to that law, we draw to us things that are in line with our own beliefs and thinking.  Positive draws positive - negative draws negative.  This seems to apply in the realm of ET-human contact as well.  Positive beliefs attract positive ETs, and we perceive whatever they do to us as positive.  Likewise, negative or fear-based belief systems, attract negative ETs – or ETs with negative motives – and we perceive our experiences with them as negative.  Too simple, you say?  Not really.  Despite our natural human tendency to obfuscate, the truth is usually pretty simple.

           Unfortunately, belief systems that have developed throughout a lifetime are not easily changed.  If you are drawing negative ET experiences to you, and aren't able to change your beliefs about them, you may not be able to easily transform the fuzzy end of the lollipop into cotton candy.  But the good news is that by simply understanding the situation and recognizing your beliefs and their control over you, you can begin to empower yourself and thereby begin to change your perception - and thus, your reality.

           This theory also clears up another common question.  You know the one - are ETs good or bad?  I've seen otherwise rational people nearly come to blows over this question.  But the truth is that ETs are neither good nor bad.  Look at it this way, I like mustard on my hamburger - you may like mayo on yours.  There's no right or wrong, good or bad - just human perception.  I know this idea may not be easy to accept if you are one of the Unlucky Ones.  But the truth is the only individual in the universe who can turn you into a victim is you.  ETs possess technology that enables them to pretty much do with us what they will.  The only aspect of the experience we have much control over is our attitude.  It's just like everything else in life.  Good things happen and bad things happen, and the only difference is how we accept them and live with them.  So, at the risk of trotting out another old bromide - when life gives you lemons, try making lemonade.

            Give it a try.  Beginning to look at your ET visits in a different light, from a different point of view, can make a huge difference.  I know it's not easy to let go of the fear and anger, and change beliefs that have accumulated through an entire lifetime, but, trust me, you do have the power.  This is the basis for overcoming all the fears in your life.  This is what all psychologists and therapists understand.  The human mind - and yes, that includes yours - is the most powerful entity in the universe.  Why else do you think the ETs are here probing it?  Changing your mind can change the way you feel about your ET experiences and your life.  Not easy, but well worth working on.  Talk to a friend.  Talk to a therapist.  Meditate.  Realize that whether you are a victim or not is up to you.  You don't have to agree with what the ETs may be doing to you, but as long as you take your power, you can learn not to be afraid.  And you can stand up to them.  They might actually leave you alone.  It has happened.

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